In a conversation with my grandson, he told me that he learned about bullying in school. He said people are either bucket fillers or bucket dippers. A bucket filler is someone who helps you and is nice to you, and a bucket dipper is someone who is mean and tries to take things away from you.
Did you know that everyone starts with an empty bucket each day? This bucket has only one purpose – to carry all of your good feelings and thoughts about yourself. We are all happy when our bucket is full. There are those that are sad – which means their bucket is empty. Did you know that you are actually dipping into another bucket when you make fun of someone? I have learned over the years that you shouldn’t make fun of anyone unless you are able to walk in their shoes and experience their life (as them). But the reality is we really can’t do that. Are we teaching our children this analogy?
We should all take the time to think about what we do and how we act towards others. When someone is in need, do you stop and help them? When someone is treating another person badly, do you sit by and watch? Learning how to deal with different situations in life are all a part of growing up. The life skills that you acquire along the way will help to mold the person you become. The same goes for your children. Do you know how your children treat others? Are you sure?
I know all of this sounds juvenile and should be common sense, but I believe we get tied up in the busyness of life and forget to control our actions. This is just a reminder to be careful what you put in (or take out) of your bucket. So, are you a bucket filler or a bucket dipper? I strive to be a bucket filler! You?
A great book to teach your children this process is “Have you filled your bucket today?”