“Do not own your negative self-talk.” Michele Sfakianos
Do you like yourself? This is a question I never really stopped to ask myself. I took myself for granted because I thought if everyone else liked me then I was okay. Boy was I wrong! I’m going to talk to you about Self-Esteem and Confidence. Two things I didn’t lack growing up, but realized later in life, they can go by the wayside if they aren’t nurtured.
Having a healthy and balanced sense of self-esteem is a major key to living a healthy and happy life. There are two sides to every coin, however. Sometimes self-esteem can become something else – namely, an unbalanced ego. So how do you know if you are simply being confident, or if you are deceiving yourself?
Healthy Self-Esteem: A healthy self-esteem is one where you have the confidence to be honest with yourself, and love yourself no matter what. A healthy self-esteem encourages you to live your life to the fullest, make bold but good choices, and to keep going if and when mistakes are made.
Low Self-Esteem: An unhealthy self-esteem goes two ways. On the one hand, an unhealthy self-esteem leaves you with zero confidence as well as an often-unrelenting fear of making mistakes, and often leads to a poor quality of life.
Over-Inflated Self-Esteem: On the other hand, an over-inflated self-esteem is also unhealthy. This is a form of self-deception that tricks you into thinking that you are better than everyone else and that you can do anything, even to the point of ostracizing your friends and family.
An unbalanced sense of self-esteem can lower your quality of life. People with low self-esteem often miss out on some of the best things that life has to offer. Either they are too afraid to make a mistake, or they feel that they are not worthy of happiness. It’s a type of existence that only holds you back.
An over-inflated sense of self-esteem puts you in danger of losing friends and close relationships. Outwardly, people with an over-inflated sense of self-esteem come off as cocky or mean. They tend to have trouble gaining and keeping close, loving relationships because they come off as being less than genuine.
Typically, however, an inflated self-esteem is generally a sign of the exact opposite. Most people like this are hiding their true selves and are actually riddled with low self-confidence. The false mask of bravado is not true self-esteem, and this confidence is really just a form of self-deception.
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