Self-confidence is one’s belief in oneself. It refers to one’s confidence in his actions, beliefs and competencies. Having self-confidence is the key towards a successful and fulfilling life. Self-talk can be described as that little voice inside your head which can either be beneficial or detrimental to your self-confidence. This inner voice usually critiques, give comments, or praise your deeds and actions.
There are different views about self-talk in relation to building self-confidence. Some people may associate self-talk to the obstacles towards attaining true confidence in yourself. This can be true in the cases of people who have no drive to take the pessimism out of their heads. This can later become a vicious cycle where a person is perpetually trapped in a downward spiral of self-esteem decline.
There is also a school of thought which believes that self-talk is an important tool in developing self-confidence. The inner voice can be seen as a teacher, a mentor, a critique who gives constructive comments and a friend. Self-talk has been employed by successful people in their careers in fields such as sports and show business.
Here are some helpful tips on how to utilize self-talk towards developing a healthy self-confidence:
1) Listen to your inner voice – This is the first step in making good use of self-talk. Identify the inner voice in you and listen to what it is saying. Ask questions like, regarding the contents of the thoughts, the situations which brought about these thoughts and the other factors which could have aggravated the situation. Remember that this is to be done under the general goal of building self-confidence, so try to be as honest as possible.
2) Thoughts Assessment – After the thoughts have been identified, it is time to assess them. What are these thoughts saying in general? What attitude towards the self is being projected by these thoughts? How have I responded to these kinds of thoughts in the past? What have these kinds of thoughts instilled in me throughout the years? Have they been helpful to me and my quest towards self-confidence? The general tone of the inner voice is as important as what it is saying. Negative tones should be controlled and be reversed into positive ones.
3) Make a difference – Dealing with your inner voice can be a daunting task. If it’s hard to talk to somebody who won’t listen, it’s even harder to talk and listen to oneself since there can be no sensible argument that could happen. Getting rid of the negative thoughts inside one’s head will give the positive thoughts some space. It is all about rephrasing the negative thoughts to make them positive. Your concept of the world is based on your views of the world. You develop self-confidence by feeling good about yourself.
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